Two different women wear white to friend's wedding, bride holds a grudge and refuses to continue friendship: "My husband said it could have been an honest mistake"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 29, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Hey there ladies and gentlemen of the internet. There are a slew of faux Pas that are tactless to do at weddings. It's never appropriate to do a proposal for one. I'm not sure how we got to 2025, with the inventions and AI technology that's booming, but people still don't know to just leave someone's wedding alone. It's not your wedding! Don't make it about you by doing some grand romantic gesture, just go to dance and tell the happy couple you love them. Wearing white it equally taboo, and maybe even worse in a way. 
 

It really doesn't get more embarrassing than wearing white to a wedding. You're really just letting everyone know "I'm so neglected in my life that I need to use this space for people to look at me." Next time, save it for your own wedding. Or better yet, just go out in public in a beautiful white gown. You're bound to get attention. 
 

In the story below, the protagonist holds a grudge against two women. Read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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    AITAH for not wanting to pursue friendship with 2 women that wore white to my wedding?

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    For history, my husband has 2 close friends that we will name Mike and Andy. Mike and Andy don't know each other too well, but both of them had recently
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  • It's common knowledge not to wear white to a wedding. These women must have done it on purpose, but I don't believe for a second that the husband's were so daft to not realize they were acting absolutely taboo. Men, women, and children know not to wear white. But is it dramatic to hold the grudge?

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    gotten into serious relationships with women. I've know Mike for 15+ years and Andy for 5+, and I wanted to make a real effort to get to know their partners. While I
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    struggled to find common ground or areas of connection with either partner, I always tried to put my best foot forward, led with curiosity, and did my
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    darndest to be kind, even when they were not. I'm not particularly close to Mike nor Andy so I can't imagine why their partners would ever feel threatened by me.
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    I recently got married, and Mike and Andy brought their partners as plus ones. Both of these women, who have only met each other once or twice, show up to
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    my wedding wearing white. And not a white dress with patterns - full on solid white dresses; long, flowing, with lace. Needless to
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    say, I was livid. I highly doubt the women colluded together to wear white together, but of course, in my fury, the thought crossed my mind.
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    There's no tea with anyone shaming them or purposefully spilling wine on them, but for sure were they the center of gossip for quite a while. Both
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    these women were born in the US with the same cultural context as I, so it should come as no surprise to them that wearing white to a wedding is a sign of disrespect.
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    They don't get the benefit of the doubt from me, especially because this behavior aligns with some of the pettiness they've displayed in the past.
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    In the following weeks, I had seen both Mike and Andy. I expressed my hurt in their partners' behavior. I know it's not their job - to police their partners — I just
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    wanted to share how I felt and get it off my chest, because I don't know either woman well enough to confront them in such
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    a way (and I don't have their phone numbers). It would feel weird to get their numbers just to text them and be like "yo W'. *" so
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    I had decided I would let it go and not allow these women in my life any further.
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    It's been a few months and my husband asked if we want to do a double date with either of the couples. I said absolutely not, and pointed to the blatant disrespect
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    of wearing white to our wedding. My husband says it could have. been an honest mistake but I doubt it was. I'm drawing a line. It
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    may be easier to have couple friends but I have other friends I love so much that treat me with kindness and respect. I'd rather spend my time with them.
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    Am I being petty over a dress color? EDIT 1: y'all my husband did not know about this faux pas of wearing white. I explained it to him, he understood, and he
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    respects the boundary. Chill out. I'm not looking for commentary on my spouse; only myself and my self-perceived cattiness. Also yeah my wedding day was the best! This weird situation doesn't
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    take away from the fact I had a stellar time and wish to relive the day over and over. Yes I also like my husband. Didn't realize that if
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    I didn't type that out that you guys would try reading between some lines that don't exist. TIL. Thanks!
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